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21st of October 2018


When We Are Constantly Trying to Fill That Void Within - The Good Men Project

—I know it when I feel it…

This deep pit in the middle of my being that I strive to fill.

No, not that tug in my gut I get when I drive by a Chipotle…

But that feeling of emotional emptiness. Like I just need to get something or do something so I can be full again.

After all, those perfect people on Facebook said I should be living a life of greatness, didn’t they? Maybe I should buy their course for $29.95 and figure out how to do that (in, of course, 7 easy steps).

Load me up with approval.Pump me full of piety.Tell me how great I am.Do what I want you to do.Fill me up. Now.

This void stems from a belief in lack. Of not-enoughness. A belief I bought into as a kid that was sold to me from the same inadequacies of my elders.

I find myself constantly trying to fill it.

But what if this void was a lie? A myth? A story?

What if I bought into a different story? One that says I’m already full. One that revealed to me that I was born full, whole, complete…

One that shows me that my job in this existence is to portray my fullness by living a life of this nature. A life of giving. Not so much in a material sense (although that’s part of it). But in an emotional sense.

When I live life from a place of attempting to fill up an empty hole, I proclaim to the world my emptiness.

But when I live life from a place of pouring my whole Self into everything I do, I proclaim to the world my wholeness.

The void in my soul is an illusion. Wholeness is my reality.

This one small, mental shift transforms how I carry myself through my world.

When I remember it, I start showing up as an instrument of creativity instead of an empty vessel waiting to be filled. I lean forward into life.

Oh, I’ll take the chicken burrito, with white rice, pinto beans, corn salsa, and everything else on it, by the way.

This post was originally published on, and is republished here with the author’s permission.


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